I just got back from a 6 hour coaching intensive with a client.

We walked, we talked, I coached him deeply and new possibilities opened for him which meant he had already started to transform by the end of the day.

Throughout the intensive a theme kept coming up; Leadership. What it means to be a leader and how to become much more effective.

There are so many parts to powerful leadership and yet underpinning everything is one simple truth:

To be a truly effective leader you have to lead from within.

It starts with how you lead yourself.

Do you ever shout at your staff or colleagues?

Does anger rear it’s head when you are under pressure?

Do you feel stressed during the day?

These are all signs that you are not leading yourself and that you, at least in those moments, have lost control.

That kind of behaviour has a negative effect on the atmosphere of the office, it can be like a virus, infecting everyone around you. It will bleed into everything you do and everyone you come into contact with.

Even if this doesn’t happen every day, it reflects badly on your leadership ability. People will tune out when you speak because they are bracing themselves for the emotion reactions that you are known for.

When I have worked with City workers, bankers or traders specifically, I have heard time and again how in the environment they work in it is normal for bosses to swear at staff; that they may have someone’s nose almost touching theirs as they scream into their face; feeling the spit hit them.

To say that is poor leadership is an understatement. It shows an inability to handle stress and a lack of understanding of how to inspire people to work to the best of their ability.

Why do so many City workers burn out?

It has nothing to do with the stress of the job and EVERYTHING to do with poor management of people.

It never needs to be like that. Whether you are a senior member of management or the guy who sweeps the floors, you can start becoming a powerful leader today.

“It begins with self awareness”

Assess your actions throughout your working day. When were you stressed, when were you aggressive or angry?

“Creativity is the antedote for stress”

For each situation, come up with 5 ways that you could have approached that differently. Be creative; allow yourself to come up with even ludicrous ways; like telling your employee while singing “Zippedy Doo Da”. The more creative you are the better able you will be to handle it better next time.

If you do this every day for 3 weeks, at the end of 3 weeks you will have changed your reactions to so many things and you will be a much more effective leader.

Start leading from within.

I am researching the biggest stumbling blocks to effective leadership so I can better serve my clients.

What is the thing that holds you back the most when it comes to being as effective as you want to be?

Post in the comments, or if you want to keep it private, message me directly.

You can contact me about the possibility of coaching you to be a more effective leader or running a leadership training course for your company here: david@davidsaville.co.uk

Here is another post inspired by an article I read in the Telegraph that highlights the problem many bankers face and gives you a way to overcome it: